Chris Loomis was supposed to be in town last weekend but I had to call him and tell him not to come. I got a call on Thursday morning that my grandpa had passed away, so I went to Pierre instead. It was nice to see my aunts and cousins, and my Mom and Dad. Too bad it wasn't under better circumstances.
My Mom is taking it pretty hard--understandably-- as her mom passed about a year and a half ago.
I was a pallbearer again. My mom really wanted me to be one and if that's what she wants, if it makes her feel better, I'm willing to do it. It's not a job that I wanted to become good at, but it seems like I've been getting a lot of practice. I don't know. I've been a pallbearer 5 times but 4 of them have been in the past year and a half.
I consider it an honor to help bring a loved one to their final rest. It certainly isn't has hard as all the planning and arranging that other people have had to do before the various funerals I've attended recently. I guess I'm just tired of the sadness. I've had enough funerals for a while, not that there's anything anyone can do about how many funerals a person has to go to or when they occur. I've noticed that I have other relatives that I've seen at these events that don't seem to have any "duties". They show up, visit with relatives that they haven't seen for a while, dress up on the day of, mumble through some songs, eat their Lutheran Hot Dish or the ham-on-a-buttered-dinner-roll sandwiches and go home. I sometimes think "that would be nice". Nice to not have to worry about showing up early or about getting instructions right, nice to sit with my family, nice to not have to worry about tripping/falling/dropping. (Believe me, it crosses your mind.) But it's also nice that my family knows I'll show up, they know that I'll listen to instructions and that I'll comport myself with decorum. They know that if they give me a difficult duty on a difficult day I'll stand up and do it for them. That's nice too.
Klemens Max Hlebanja was born in Stanley County, SD in 1917 to Austrian immigrants who had homesteaded west of Hayes, SD. I didn't know until last year that his first name was Klemens, which was his father's name. Everyone always called him Max. He liked to fly, hunt, fish and play practicle jokes on people. He always had a good story to tell.
One of my favorites:
When he was about 80, he was having a lot of trouble walking. He finally went to the doctor to get checked out. He told the doctor it was probably his right knee because he'd had pain in that knee for quite a while. The doctor told him it was probably his hip since he was kind getting on in years and hip joints tend to wear out, but the doc said they'd xray his hip and knee and see what they came up with.
A few days later, Max was back at the doctor's and the doc said "Well, Max, it is your hip and we'll have to schedule you for replacement surgery. But I have a question about your knee....there seems to be a bullet in it."
Grandpa replied, "Ooooohh?" He could say more with the word 'oh' than most people can with whole sentences. He started to laugh and said "I fogot all about that. When I was 16 I was practicing my quick draw and shot myself in the knee. I didn't want to get in trouble so I just wrapped it up and didn't tell anyone."
So when my grandpa had his hip replaced, they took what was left of the 60-odd year old bullet out of his knee too.
Grandpa thought that was hillarious.
I'll really miss him.